It is one of the hardest things to do and that is to ask for help. Some of us fight till the bitter end.. Powerless over “fill in the blank” that my life has become unmanageable. This is the first step in recovery. This is a brief page to start, but here are a couple of tools if you’re looking for some answers or don’t know where to start. I heard in a meeting once, be a tree and be the best tree that you can be. We are not perfect..